Thinking About Going Transgender

[Lolbye]

So. About 7 or 8 years ago.
I used to wish i was a guy. And i only remembered this recently,because i was looking back at old photos of me.
I used to dress like a guy rarely at the time, heck, they're were times i pretended i was a guy.
But i used to wish i was a guy, i used to wish i could wear guy clothes all the time, do guy things, have a guys name.
But i didnt know then that you could actually go transgender. Now in fact i didnt know anything about lgbtq+ then. Besides gays and lesbians.
But one day, i specifically remember, finding a article in the newspaper. Which said:

"12 year old boy goes transgender, and school begins struggles with his new identity"
And i got sooooo confused after reading it. So i went to my friend, who made my wish of becoming a boy disappear. He told me, in these exact words,
"To go transgender, you HAVE to get surgery and remove certain parts, or add new parts."
And then i became scarred. And became scared of my wish to become a boy.

Now i havent thought much about the subject until very recently. When i joined the listners group that @Kaylum made, i soon found out he was trangender. Female > Male.
I started becoming more interested in the idea of going transgender.

And now im going back to the old pictures i looked at.
I realised how happy i was pretending to be a guy, how comfortable i felt dressing as one. I remember my sister once told me i started crying when we threw away those clothes. It may seem weird but.... yeah.

Anyway, a few days ago i started thinking. What if i went transgender?
I asked a few of my friends who said "Sure. I mean, we cant stop you."
But im still not sure.
So i wanted to hear your guys opinion... what would you say if i went transgender?

Because im realling thinking about it, but at the same time. I'm so not sure.

 

[Xienah]

First, I want to note that being trans is a major change and while you may think now it would help to have other people's opinions, it's about how *You* feel, not us. If you're trans, we'll support you. If not, all the same. You are you and we love that, just take your time and make sure it's what you want not other people.

 

[Lolbye]

First, I want to note that being trans is a major change and while you may think now it would help to have other people's opinions, it's about how *You* feel, not us. If you're trans, we'll support you. If not, all the same. You are you and we love that, just take your time and make sure it's what you want not other people.

thank you

 

[Grizzly]

Follow you dreams. Don't let people hate on who you are. If you want to be male be male. Don't let people stop you from being who you are. Who you are is wonderful and it is who you should be forever. It doesn't matter if you're bi, gay, les, trans, pan. The people who care about you will always stick around you and those who don't you shouldn't want to be with. People who care will be with you no matter what. Just do what you want no matter what.

 

[Alexonn]

Do whatever your heart tells you to do. Be Yourself and it all matters, No one is gonna judge you for who you are and for your decisions because your decision is for yourself. We all have open arms for you, We accept you for who you are because We are one family we stick together no matter what, We show respect for each other and mostly we support each other. As What Grizzly said Follow your dreams! Don't let other people get in the way of making it come true and Do what you think that will make you happy, And dont let people bring you down for who you are because at the end we all have to Accept. We Love you Meep and We're here to support you no matter what

 

[PikaUniverse295]

If it makes you happy, do it. Know that your family and friends will support you no matter what.

 

[PrisonBop]

Unpopular opinion incoming: You should see a therapist before making any sort of decision like this. While everyone around you may be supportive, it's statistically shown that around 20% of trans people regret making the change, and those who are young are at a much higher risk of having life-destroying regrets ( http://www.sexchangeregret.com/ ) .

It's also psychologically shown that due to the fact that the human brain doesn't fully develop until later years, it's entirely possible that you don't actually want to be the other gender, given that you're 14. Wishing you were a guy when you were 6 or 7 means very little, since little children don't really know much, you could've easily wanted to be a guy because you thought they got more toys, or better food in kindergarten, something petty that a child would latch on to.

That being said, I have nothing against trans people at all, and I'll still be happy to be your friend if you do go trans. I just think it's not a decision to be taken lightly, whereas a lot of people on this site in particular have some fairly unhealthy and unrealistic views of being trans.

TL;DR see a therapist to look into your mental state before going trans. The desire to be another gender can also arise from being depressed, having low self esteem, or many other things, and you might deeply regret being trans if you just jump into it based on what some online people said.

 

[Clex]

You know what ever you chose it dosent matter what other people think what other people say the only thing that matters is that your are happy with who your are my self i am straight but i support anyone who wants to become lgbt+ and if your want to change thats your choice and i and pretty sure all of pz will support your on your decision

 

[ATanCommander]

If you makes you happy, do what you want to do. Take your time thinking about it!

 

[FabDuckie]

Also maybe an unpopular opinion???; To start off I fully support all LGBTQ+ people all that stuff. I've done rallies and all that good stuff. Hell, I'm gay asf LMAO. But from your explanation I'm not really sure. I don't think you could forget about it, and then remember and then forget about it. For me at least, I know being gay is always in the back of my head. It's not something I could forget for 3 months and then remember and be like oh yeah. And just liking "the style of a gender", doesn't mean you necessarily want to be that gender. (can't/won't use the right word but) frick gender roles. You could wear what you want and still be your gender assigned at birth, unless you know you want to be trans? I don't know but to me, you sound more like you're trying to restrict yourself to a specific gender based on clothing. You might want to transition? You might not? For me personally, I felt the same way when I was younger. I was really interested in makeup and thought wait maybe I want to be a girl? But I realized I thought that because I was used to gender roles structured by society, I could be a guy and do makeup, doesn't necessarily make me a girl. If you decide to transition, all props to you, do it if it makes you happy.

whereas a lot of people on this site in particular have some fairly unhealthy and unrealistic views of being trans.

[Double post but whoops], but I agree with this part (not the part of sex changes not being effective and all that, just people on this site take it a little too lightly), a lot treat it like it's a new fad diet. like oh yeah i think i might go trans? It's not something you could just decide like that, it needs to be something you're sure of.

 

[AVenomoose]

Anzuronn You be what ever you want to be if you do or don't become transgender I will always support you and be your friend (Shhh I am transgender aswell)

 

[Lolbye]

Follow you dreams. Don't let people hate on who you are. If you want to be male be male. Don't let people stop you from being who you are. Who you are is wonderful and it is who you should be forever. It doesn't matter if you're bi, gay, les, trans, pan. The people who care about you will always stick around you and those who don't you shouldn't want to be with. People who care will be with you no matter what. Just do what you want no matter what.

❤❤❤❤❤

Do whatever your heart tells you to do. Be Yourself and it all matters, No one is gonna judge you for who you are and for your decisions because your decision is for yourself. We all have open arms for you, We accept you for who you are because We are one family we stick together no matter what, We show respect for each other and mostly we support each other. As What Grizzly said Follow your dreams! Don't let other people get in the way of making it come true and Do what you think that will make you happy, And dont let people bring you down for who you are because at the end we all have to Accept. We Love you Meep and We're here to support you no matter what

Thank you Alex ❤❤ and Grizzly

If it makes you happy, do it. Know that your family and friends will support you no matter what.

❤ thank you

Unpopular opinion incoming: You should see a therapist before making any sort of decision like this. While everyone around you may be supportive, it's statistically shown that around 20% of trans people regret making the change, and those who are young are at a much higher risk of having life-destroying regrets ( http://www.sexchangeregret.com/ ) .

It's also psychologically shown that due to the fact that the human brain doesn't fully develop until later years, it's entirely possible that you don't actually want to be the other gender, given that you're 14. Wishing you were a guy when you were 6 or 7 means very little, since little children don't really know much, you could've easily wanted to be a guy because you thought they got more toys, or better food in kindergarten, something petty that a child would latch on to.

That being said, I have nothing against trans people at all, and I'll still be happy to be your friend if you do go trans. I just think it's not a decision to be taken lightly, whereas a lot of people on this site in particular have some fairly unhealthy and unrealistic views of being trans.

TL;DR see a therapist to look into your mental state before going trans. The desire to be another gender can also arise from being depressed, having low self esteem, or many other things, and you might deeply regret being trans if you just jump into it based on what some online people said.

True, yes. But i have trust in so many people here, some who themselves are trans. Also i am aware my brain is not fully developed. Also, i do know about 2 people who are trans themselves in real life who've kept me updated. Both now, females. I did not know these girls back then which is also another thing. And heck i do agree with you on some of the things you said.

Also maybe an unpopular opinion???; To start off I fully support all LGBTQ+ people all that stuff. I've done rallies and all that good stuff. Hell, I'm gay asf LMAO. But from your explanation I'm not really sure. I don't think you could forget about it, and then remember and then forget about it. For me at least, I know being gay is always in the back of my head. It's not something I could forget for 3 months and then remember and be like oh yeah. And just liking "the style of a gender", doesn't mean you necessarily want to be that gender. (can't/won't use the right word but) frick gender roles. You could wear what you want and still be your gender assigned at birth, unless you know you want to be trans? I don't know but to me, you sound more like you're trying to restrict yourself to a specific gender based on clothing. You might want to transition? You might not? For me personally, I felt the same way when I was younger. I was really interested in makeup and thought wait maybe I want to be a girl? But I realized I thought that because I was used to gender roles structured by society, I could be a guy and do makeup, doesn't necessarily make me a girl. If you decide to transition, all props to you, do it if it makes you happy.

I didnt necsessarily forget. I actually knew the information. But i did not think about this until looking at those photos and went: "oh yeah that was pretty cool, good times." Thats when my questions begun arising about going trans. And of course, little child me wanted to be a guy for reasons like mini you aswell. But this is now, which has turned into me starting to become way more serious about the idea. Also, i wouldnt consider it an unpopular opinion. I've had people bring it up in pms and irl.

Also i agree with the idea that people take it lightly. I was taking it lightly when the idea first popped up, but now its becoming an actual "Shoul i actually? Will this make me happier? Or will it hurt me?"
Also i never said i was sure, i just said considering. Thats why i titled it Thinking. I never said i definitely would. Just to note

(Wow this was way longer then i anticipated)

 

[PrisonBop]

❤❤❤❤❤
True, yes. But i have trust in so many people here, some who themselves are trans.

again, this is not the kind of place that you want to trust for this sort of information. to be blunt, this site is full of a lot of angsty teens and younger who want to fit in, and it's entirely possible that they'd say just about anything to do so.
i think with anything regarding mental health, a mental health professional (therapist or psychologist) is the place to start, not a minecraft forum

 

[Lolbye]

again, this is not the kind of place that you want to trust for this sort of information. to be blunt, this site is full of a lot of angsty teens and younger who want to fit in, and it's entirely possible that they'd say just about anything to do so.
i think with anything regarding mental health, a mental health professional (therapist or psychologist) is the place to start, not a minecraft forum

I do not put trust in those people anymore, if you knew me irl you would know why.
Its personal reasons.
Also i did not start here to explain it, i started with my friends and my trans friends. I asked many questions which soon led to this post.
But i do get where you're coming from in all honesty.

 

[Xienah]

In response to Pbop's little rant, you could always contact an LGBTQ+ hotline and voice your opinion/get help there. They are trained professionals, know what they're doing, and you don't have to pay a butt ton or come out to family members immediately like you would have to in order to see a therapist in person.

 

[PrisonBop]

In response to Pbop's little rant, you could always contact an LGBTQ+ hotline and voice your opinion/get help there. They are trained professionals, know what they're doing, and you don't have to pay a butt ton or come out to family members immediately like you would have to in order to see a therapist in person.

fair enough, I had no idea that those kind of hotlines exist
not trying to force anyone to pay a ton of cash to a therapist, although acting as though you'd need to come out to see a therapist is ridiculous, there's a million other reasons to go to a therapist.

 

[Lolbye]

In response to Pbop's little rant, you could always contact an LGBTQ+ hotline and voice your opinion/get help there. They are trained professionals, know what they're doing, and you don't have to pay a butt ton or come out to family members immediately like you would have to in order to see a therapist in person.

Wow, i actually didnt know this.
Thank you! ❤

 

[Arujann]

honestly, whatever you're comfortable with is what you should do. there'll be people who don't like it but that really doesn't matter.

i do however have a problem with your wording. "going transgender", you can't just go trans just like you can't go gay. as an openly gay male, it's quite offensive. you're either transgender or you're not- it's that simple. your gender identity isn't defined by what's between your legs, how you act, how you dress, or who you love- it's about how you feel. this may come across harsh and i apologize in advance, but i think you should get validation from yourself before you come to people on minecraft forums and ask them if they'd support you. the main thing would be you supporting yourself.

when i was 9, i wrote in my diary about how i wanted to be a girl and how i was convinced that i was. i believed that up until i was 12. now, i'm turning 17 later this year and i'm 100% gay, and 100% male. i have always identified myself with femininity- but that doesn't make me a girl. i have always worn somewhat feminine clothes- but that doesn't make me a girl. i have always had a feminine voice- but that doesn't make me a girl. i think you understand the point i'm trying to convey.

in all seriousness if you genuinely feel that identifying as transgender is what fits you the most- then by all means, identify as it. no one is trying to stop you. i just trust that you'll make the smartest decision for yourself and not act irrationally or impulsively. i'm not saying you are, but people changing their minds about their sexualities and gender identities are what makes people think we're going through phases.

in no way did i mean to come across as rude, i apologize if i didd

 

[Lolbye]

honestly, whatever you're comfortable with is what you should do. there'll be people who don't like it but that really doesn't matter.

i do however have a problem with your wording. "going transgender", you can't just go trans just like you can't go gay. as an openly gay male, it's quite offensive. you're either transgender or you're not- it's that simple. your gender identity isn't defined by what's between your legs, how you act, how you dress, or who you love- it's about how you feel. this may come across harsh and i apologize in advance, but i think you should get validation from yourself before you come to people on minecraft forums and ask them if they'd support you. the main thing would be you supporting yourself.

when i was 9, i wrote in my diary about how i wanted to be a girl and how i was convinced that i was. i believed that up until i was 12. now, i'm turning 17 later this year and i'm 100% gay, and 100% male. i have always identified myself with femininity- but that doesn't make me a girl. i have always worn somewhat feminine clothes- but that doesn't make me a girl. i have always had a feminine voice- but that doesn't make me a girl. i think you understand the point i'm trying to convey.

in all seriousness if you genuinely feel that identifying as transgender is what fits you the most- then by all means, identify as it. no one is trying to stop you. i just trust that you'll make the smartest decision for yourself and not act irrationally or impulsively. i'm not saying you are, but people changing their minds about their sexualities and gender identities are what makes people think we're going through phases.

in no way did i mean to come across as rude, i apologize if i didd

Dont worry im not offended Sam. Sorry, I've been very stressed and tired lately, my words arent going in the right place. My schedules become unbearable and random, so excuse my speach and wording i am about to use and have used.
You also have many points. But in reality, my brain has become so used to my old logics and ways of doing things, so my first thoughts are, ask your closet friends and spill. I do regret some things I've ever told them, but its become a horrible habit i cant get rid of. And i myself find it hard to validate anything, which is why its always "i dont know" or shrug. Which is another reason i go to them.
Although for once my mind is finding positivity in both roads that i could choose. But I'm not sure either, because of my style of thought. Which is mostly why i posted it on forums.
Probably worded a lot of this wrong. So woops.
But you are absolutely right on what you said❤

 

[reddd]

With you Azuronn I felt the same when I was younger ans I still do, I support you through this, you brave smol child