Some gender identification issues.

[APerson]

Happy Pride Month!

So, since it's pride month I thought it might be a good time to ask about this.This community is so LGBTQ+ supportive, so I feel like it would be able to help me the most.

I'm having some trouble with gender identification, I'm thinking I might be gender fluid, bi-gender, or demi gender but I can't tell.

To sum up how I feel about my gender, I was born female and I am very feminine {I love girls clothes, pastels are the best shades of colors to me, I enjoy having a girly fashion style and girly clothes in general excluding dresses and skirts because I hate those, I love wearing chokers, etc.} however..

Even though I am very feminine and was born female, if I had to choose between male or female I would choose male for the most part. I'm not in the slightest bit masculine, but I just feel like male describes me the most, just not entirely.

But the thing that confuses me is that I don't care what pronouns people refer to me as, and I honestly would be fine being female, male, and even non-binary. Though some days I rather be one than the other and be referred to as that one, I overall wouldn't mind what people refer to me as. I don't really get sad when someone refers to me as a she, he, they, or even it. And I don't really care that I look like a girl, either.

I did a lot of searching and looking through gender definitions trying to find what I could best describe myself as, and though I'm still questioning my gender and sexuality and I'm still discovering new things and definitions, I feel like what could possibly describe me best would be one of these...

Genderfluid
Reasoning: I'm be fine with any pronoun, and I'd be fine being female, male, or non-binary. Some days i'm perfectly happy being female, some days I would rather be a guy, and some days I honestly just don't care to be either. {As I mention a lot as I read back on this, I rather be a guy but I don't think it entirely describe me.}

Bi-gender
Reasoning: Though I was born a girl and I am feminine, I would enjoy being a guy or a girl. It just depends on which I feel like I'd rather be, and though my preference would be a guy, I don't feel like identifying as just a guy would really define me that well, I'd honestly be fine with going with or switching between either male or female, maybe both or maybe neither.

Demigender
Reasoning: I believe I'm more demigender than anything else, but I want to know the opinions of people who've gone through their gender questioning stages. As I mentioned I am very feminine, but i'd love to be a guy. Despite that, I don't feel like just identifying as a guy describes me entirely. I honestly feel like the best way I could describe myself wouldn't just be one gender, but it would lean toward one gender.


I've posted a gender advice thread before, and I'm sorry if it might be annoying, but I honestly would like the opinions of people who have or are going through the same questioning of themselves as I am. If you read this, then thank you!

 

[nedthefed]

Having been part of online communities for over half a decade now, and being friends with people who have gone through struggles similar to this where all they want to do is find a definition to define themselves, I would honestly have to recommend that you simply just identify yourself as yourself. By committing to a definition that defines you, you're creating an explicit definition for something that defines you, but you change, why not just be you? You described yourself as a very feminine female-born person. These things do have an effect on how you interact, but these other words you're saying don't change you, they're just little boxes you've putting your identity into. It definitely seems easier to simply just be yourself, and not care for the definitions.

I by no means am trying to stop you in this search, and if you disagree with what I say that's fine too. I've just seen for the most part people who trouble themselves with these definitions end up spending more time worrying about the definition rather than who they actually are. The definition doesn't matter, it's your personality that matters at the end of the day.

Just try not to stress yourself out too much with a definition, that only hurts more than it helps.

 

[KinqOfTheClouds]

Sexualities and genders are just self-assigned labels. No one can tell you what you are. You may be attracted to anyone, no matter the gender, but prefer to classify yourself as bisexual and not pansexual, for example. It doesn't matter as long as you're happy with what you call yourself. Like said above, you do change over the years. Your idea of yourself may change as you grow older, or it may stay the same.

 

[AvumsStudent]

I Agree with this, and i feel like everyone should be like who they are... not who they are not